stoke  /st艒k/  路  verb  路  To stir up a 馃敟 to make it burn hotter
Now available on iOS

Stoke the
obsession.

The wanting. The craving. The "I can't wait to get home to you" feeling. Whether you're trying to get it back, or never let it go.

Any flame can burn out.
Stoke shows you exactly what to do to stay 馃敟. One or two personalized actions each week. This is love compounded.

Download on the App Store

Free to start 路 iOS 路 No credit card required


At some point, every couple hits the same wall. The connection that felt automatic starts needing attention. You love them. Obviously. But loving someone and knowing how to make them feel loved are two completely different things.

Dogs, unemployment, anxiety, fights about your mom, money problems, kids, passive-aggressive dishwasher incidents. Nobody taught us this part.

Tinder taught us how to meet. Instagram taught us how to want something else. But keeping desire alive after year 10? After you've seen them cry-drunk? After you know exactly how they'll react to everything?

Nobody shows us how to stay obsessed with someone we've seen at their worst.

What actually changes

Whether things are rough, good, or great. Intentional couples outperform the ones just hoping it stays good.

01

Your partner starts feeling chosen again.

Not in a grand gesture way. In a "they actually remembered what I said last Tuesday" way. That's the stuff that sticks.

02

You stop having the same fight.

Because Stoke surfaces what's actually going on underneath. What you need, what they need. Before it becomes a blowup.

03

The wanting comes back.

Sex stops feeling like a negotiation when you're both actually feeling seen. Connection first. The rest follows.

04

You have something to work with.

Not vague advice. One specific action this week, built around how your partner feels loved. Not a generic template.

How it works

Three steps. No therapy speak.

01

Tell Stoke about your relationship.

Love languages, how long you've been together, what's been hard. Takes 5 minutes. Stoke uses this to figure out what actually moves the needle for your partner. Not some generic couple profile. Yours.

02

Get one action per week.

Not a to-do list. Not a 12-step program. One thing, specific and doable today, that makes your partner feel wanted. No planning required.

03

Watch it compound.

This is the part nobody tells you about. Small moves, consistently, don't just feel nice. They add up until before you know it, you're laughing, f馃枻king, and really talking to each other again.

They thought the spark was just... gone.

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I literally cried after a month when I realized we were connecting again like we used to.

Emily 路 Married 7 years

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Things between us were genuinely good. Stoke just gave us a way to keep investing. We're closer now than we were two years ago.

Ryan 路 Together 5 years

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We're both so busy and Stoke makes it easy for me to do things for him without having to think about it.

Priya 路 Together 2 years

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We hit the roommate phase and I was seriously done. But Stoke made it easy to start investing again. Now we're back to US. I'm glad I didn't give up.

Jess 路 Together 9 years, 2 kids

The best relationships aren't lucky.
They're intentional.

Love isn't just one thing. It's everything you choose to do with the person in front of you, every, single, day.

Download on the App Store

Free to start 路 iOS 路 No credit card required